Who is Stacy?

I am an introspective and nurturing caregiver who connects through nature and art. I am a homebody, living in the suburbs of New York, and have never lived more than a thirty minute drive from where I grew up. 

I have a grown son who I am soulfully proud of and love beyond measure. He is a talented musician, and human. He reminds me a great deal of his father. I also care for four rescue dogs, although truthfully, we care for each other.

I am a seeker and love to learn, I am constantly taking classes and courses. 

I have been honored to have wonderful personal teachers and mentors.

I am messy. I am a combination of wonderful things like compassion, patience, empathy, having a sense of humor, and  being nurturing. Then there are the other things that I am less fond of, like some of my more intense traits, emotional reactiveness, and stubbornness, just to name a few.

Like you, I have also experienced my share of life’s challenges to navigate, such as depression, anxiety, grief from losing relationships and jobs, as well as the death of a spouse and the profound loneliness that brings .

I have spent the last 15 years doing the work to make sense of who I am, and to build a relationship with this messy me, and learning how to love her.

The turning point for me in my work was when I realized in order to accomplish this, I needed to consider some hard truths:

• I was living most of my life in the past and the future, not the present.
• I wasn’t working with my whole self at the same time but rather my parts: brain, heart, and body. I needed an integrated approach.
• I needed to learn how to trust myself, that no matter what happens, I can, and will be ok.
• I was not creating the circumstances of my life, but I was creating the experience of my life.
• I needed to build a tolerance for honesty with myself, and be willing to feel and explore things that were very uncomfortable.

For me the some of the work consisted of:

• Learning how to acknowledge, tolerate and validate all my feelings, thoughts and behaviors, and feel compassion about them. 
• Learning how to create and sustain boundaries in work, relationships, and life in general. 
• Reconnect with my body through building awareness  practices and somatic work.
• Developing personal practices that support all of my centers of intelligence, mind, heart and body, working together.
• Shadow work, having compassion and love for the messy parts.

I am happy to say that the work that I continue to do has led me to experience a transformative shift in perspective, moving from a narrative of brokenness to one of understanding and compassion, both towards oneself and others.

I am very glad that if you choose to, you will get to know this version rather than the one of fifteen, ten, five, or even one year ago.

This brings me to the question of why I do what I do.

I remember hearing the statement, “We are wounded in relationship, and we heal in relationship” and this has stuck with me.

I want to leave the world a better place than it was when I entered it.

I want to continue to be engaged in healthy, collaborative work that makes a real difference.

Doing what I do is the best way that I have found to be the best and most authentic version of myself.

I want to offer an alternative to classic therapy that I have heard so many times people are searching for, I know I was.

Warmly,
Stacy